The holidays have a funny way of telling the truth about us — not in dramatic, movie-script moments, but in the small, ordinary memories that somehow stick.

Ask someone their favorite holiday memory and they almost never tell you about a perfect table setting, a magazine-worthy tree, or a stress-free event.

They tell you something about connection — about who they were with, how they felt, and what that moment revealed about their relationship.

Holiday memories are tiny windows into what matters most to us… and often, they quietly say something about who we are as couples.

Here’s what your favorite holiday memory might be saying about you two:

It might mean: You feel most like a team when you’re part of something bigger.

You and your partner might be the couple who thrives on family energy — the noise, the chaos, the kids running around, the laughter from the kitchen. Being surrounded by people you love makes you feel more connected to each other, not less.

Maybe you grew up with houses full of cousins, siblings everywhere, football humming from the living room, and long tables covered with everyone’s signature dishes. If those are the memories you return to, it’s a sign you and your partner value togetherness — the kind that only happens when everyone squeezes in and talks over each other.

Some couples thrive in that energy. It makes them feel woven into something bigger than themselves.

It might mean: You’re a couple who builds closeness from simplicity — even when the holiday doesn’t go as planned.

I have one of these memories myself.

Years ago, right after Kevin and I moved to my hometown, I imagined our first Thanksgiving there would be just like the ones I grew up with: siblings, parents, nieces, nephews, way too many side dishes — the whole loud, happy crowd.

And then I found out… everyone had made out-of-town plans.
Everyone except us.

Suddenly Thanksgiving shrank down to just the two of us, and a long, quiet day stretching ahead. It could have felt lonely or disappointing. But it didn’t. Something unexpected happened instead.

We cooked a tiny version of a full Thanksgiving meal — just enough “of the works” for two. We curled up under a blanket and watched old classic movies. Snow dusted the evergreen trees outside. And without any planning or pressure, that holiday became soft, simple, and strangely cozy.

It taught me something about us:
We didn’t need a full house to feel connected.
We could build warmth out of quiet.
We could create “holiday magic” with nothing but togetherness.

If you have a favorite memory like that it might mean you’re that kind of couple too. The kind who discovers sweetness in simplicity, and who can turn an unexpected situation into a cherished story.

It might mean: Your relationship is built on resilience and humor.

Burnt pies, forgotten gifts, weather chaos, travel delays — you name it. Some couples look back at those moments and laugh harder every year.

Why?
Because those memories show who you were together in the moment.
And often, the best stories start with, “Well… things didn’t go as planned.”

If those are your favorite memories, you’re probably the couple who rolls with it, adapts, and finds connection even in the mess.

It might mean: You value tenderness and attention more than grand gestures.

Maybe it was the first ornament you bought together.
Or a walk in the cold after dinner.
Or a quiet moment at the end of the night when you looked at each other and thought, “This… this feels like home.”

Some couples are “small moment people.”
For them, love is spelled out in gestures, glances, warm hands, shared blankets, and simple traditions.

It might mean: you two feel most connected when you return to the traditions that matter.

Traditions — whether they’re big family events or tiny couple rituals — say, “We know who we are together.” They become the chapters in your relationship story that you return to again and again.

These couples often find comfort in rhythm:
the same recipes, the same movies, the same playful debates over who makes the better stuffing or who gets to put the star on the tree.

If that’s you, it means you value roots, continuity, and shared history.

Whether your holidays looked like mine that year — unexpected, quiet, and simple — or whether you live for the big, bustling gatherings… your memories are clues. They reveal:

• what strengthens your bond
• what brings you comfort
• what makes you feel like a team
• and what you might want to carry into your relationship going forward

Holiday memories aren’t just snapshots from the past.
They’re little messages about what matters most to you as a couple.

And those messages?
They’re part of your love story — the chapters worth writing down, remembering, and savoring.

Until the next time,
Tami